Havening Techniques: Gentle Change at the Root
Feel Safe in Your Own Skin Again
Anxiety, old memories, chronic pain, or IBS aren’t signs of weakness. They are signs your nervous system is still working to protect you. Havening helps calm that system, releasing the old charge and creating space for ease, safety, and calm to return.
Feel Safe in Your Own Skin Again
Anxiety, old memories, chronic pain, or IBS aren’t signs of weakness. They are signs your nervous system is still working to protect you. Havening helps calm that system, releasing the old charge and creating space for ease, safety, and calm to return.
Why Havening?
If you’ve tried therapy, mindfulness, or even medication yet still feel stuck, the problem isn’t you. It’s that most methods talk to your mind – but trauma lives in the body.
Havening is different. It works directly with your nervous system through gentle touch, creating a deep sense of safety that allows old patterns to release.
It’s not about “managing symptoms.” It’s about teaching your brain and body a new way to respond.
How Havening Works
Through light, calming touch on the arms, face, or hands, Havening creates the brain’s restorative Delta waves – the same waves present in deep sleep.
While in this deeply safe state, your brain can:
Turn down the stress response.
Release the emotional charge from painful memories.
Install new patterns of calm and resilience.
The memory of what happened may remain. But the emotional weight — the panic, tension, or fear — no longer hijacks your system.
What You Might Notice After Sessions
Clients often describe:
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A calm body where tension used to live.
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Feeling neutral or at peace when recalling old triggers.
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Relief from phobias, panic, or chronic anxiety.
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Clearer thinking and easier decision-making.
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Relief from stress-linked pain or digestive issues.
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A growing sense of grounded confidence.
Havening Empowers You
One of the most powerful aspects of Havening is that you can learn to use it yourself. In our work together, I’ll guide you through self-Havening techniques so you have a tool to calm your nervous system any time you need it.
This means the benefits don’t stop when our sessions do – you’ll carry practical tools for everyday resilience.
Who It Helps
Havening can support both recent stress and long-held patterns. It’s often effective with:
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Anxiety, panic, or overwhelm
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Emotional triggers from past events
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Stress and burnout
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Low self-esteem or fear of failure
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Public speaking or performance anxiety
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IBS and digestive issues
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Chronic pain or tension
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Feeling disconnected or “stuck”
You don’t need a “big trauma” for this to help. Havening works with the patterns your body is holding right now.
For years, I struggled with ongoing digestive issues and anxiety. I saw them as two separate problems. After my first Havening session with Kellie, I experienced a calm I hadn’t felt in over a decade. As the anxiety eased, the physical symptoms began to settle too. I’m finally starting to feel at home in my own body.
The Gentle Science of How Havening Creates Safety
When you experience the Havening Touch, we are doing more than just soothing your mind – we are creating a cascade of positive, measurable changes in your brain and body chemistry. There are several key biological shifts that happen during this process. Here’s a simple breakdown of how Havening creates such profound and lasting relief:
It Turns Down the 'Fight-or-Flight' Response.
Your nervous system's alarm is fueled by stress chemicals like norepinephrine (adrenaline) and cortisol. When you're stuck in a state of high alert, these chemicals are constantly flooding your system, leaving you feeling exhausted and on edge. Havening helps to down-regulate the production of these stress chemicals, telling your body the emergency is finally over.
It Generates Restorative Delta Brain Waves.
The Havening Touch generates Delta waves in the brain - the same slow, restorative waves that occur during the deepest stages of sleep. It is during this state that your body focuses on repair and healing. By producing these waves while you are awake, we create a unique neurochemical state that allows old, encoded trauma to be accessed and neutralised.
It Washes the Brain with Calming Neurotransmitters.
While turning down the stress chemicals, Havening also promotes a sense of calm. The deep relaxation from the Delta waves is associated with an increase in calming neurotransmitters like GABA - the brain's primary "off switch." This creates the perfect internal environment to rewire old patterns.
It De-links the Memory from the Emotion.
The core of a traumatic memory is a set of receptors (called AMPA receptors) on your nerve cells that are "glued" in place by the original high-stress event. While your brain is in the safe, calm, Delta-wave state created by Havening, we can finally dissolve that glue. The enzyme that does this (calcineurin) is activated, essentially washing the receptors clean. The memory of the event may remain, but the painful emotional charge and the body's alarm response are permanently de-linked.
In essence, we are using your body’s own language of touch and safety to create the ideal biological conditions for your brain to heal itself, updating old survival patterns with a new and lasting sense of peace.
Ready to Experience Havening?
The first step is simple: a free clarity call.
It’s a warm, no-pressure space to explore what you’re facing and whether Havening feels right for you.
Common Questions About Havening Techniques®
Explore the answers to some of the most frequently asked questions about Havening Touch and how it can support your journey towards peace and emotional resilience.
Do I have to talk about my trauma?
No, unless you want to.We work with feelings and sensations, not stories. You are always in control.
How is this different from talk therapy?
Talk therapy works with the mind. Havening works with the nervous system – creating felt safety, not just intellectual understanding.
What if I don’t know the cause?
That’s common. We don’t need a clear story. We follow the emotion or body sensation you’re experiencing today.
How quickly will I notice results?
Many people feel a shift within 1–3 sessions. Long-standing patterns may take longer, but the changes are lasting because we’re working at the root.
Are sessions online or in person?
Both are available. Most clients work online; in-person sessions are available in Peterborough, Cambs.